First Family member Bill Miller shares how he and his brothers care for their father. The Miller family, from left: Jeff, Mike, Al, Bill, and Bruce. Happy Father’s Day to all you dads out there!
Please share what you and your brothers do to take care of your father and how this plan came about.
My dad lives in Virginia. He is 94 and has advanced Parkinson’s disease. After falling twice, he is now restricted to a wheelchair and can no longer take care of himself. My oldest brother, who is retired, and I each spend one week out of every four weeks caring for him to lower the cost of his care the other two weeks. We pay a home care company to stay with him as my two younger brothers work full time and can’t do it.
How does your relationship with your Heavenly Father affect your relationship with your dad and how you care for him?
My father has always been a very godly man. Through his example and teachings, I came to have a great love for our Heavenly Father who teaches us to not only respect but also love our parents and to care for them as they cared for us when we were young. If you truly love God, you can do nothing less.
What are the blessings you encounter? Challenges?
It is a real blessing to just spend time with dad. We moved away from home 38 years ago, and with my own little family, it has always been hard to go back as much as I would have liked. It is also a blessing to show him my love and care for him as he did for me for many years. It can be a challenge at times to spend one-fourth of my time away from my wife Linda and my kids and grandkids.
How do you stay strong to keep providing the care you do?
Though it can be a challenge, God has made it possible for me to go. Also having a wife who is so supporting means more than I could ever deserve. Linda is one of God’s greatest blessings.
There are several people in our church caring for aging parents. What advice would you give to those who have aging parents? How can we pray for you and them? How can we as a church support you and them?
My advice to anyone who has aging parents, or any parents for that matter, is to cherish the time you have with them and spend as much time with them as you possibly can. Pray for us to stay strong and be patient with them as they have been with us.